What do we do when we keep bumping our heads against the seeming invincibility of dissociation? This is the time when we unrealistically bargain with life, we attempt one last attempt at manipulation – I’ll give you this, and you’ll give me what I want. There’s nothing wrong about bargaining – when it is based on offering the other party something they might really be interested in. It is not very realistic to try to bargain with dissociation forces, illness, addiction or just plain reality.
Guilt is a way of making sense of what is happening, of regaining some form of control over the uncontrollable: It must be my fault.
Once the reality of recovery sets in, the student feel overwhelmed, they become depressed. All resistance is futile.
Anger, unrealistic bargaining, depression… this is our struggle against “real” problems in the outside world, but also against our own child within.
Eventually we reach a stage where we become fully aware of impending destruction, and neither angry nor depressed about it. We have to accept our solution at the stages. We have to become introduced to our child within
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